Tuesday, March 31, 2015

The Pumping Incident



Because Troy was never able to catch on very well to breast feeding the nurse at the hospital suggested I try pumping milk to give him with his special bottle.  She ordered the pump through my insurance so it worked out really well and I became an expert pumper.  Now, we had moved several years before away from all of our family in Utah and Wyoming.  So as soon as school was out every year I would pack up all of the kids and we would have a mad road trip to Utah.  We would visit all of our relatives so the kids could play with their cousins and I could get out of the California, and then Arizona, heat.  The year Troy was born presented a special challenge.  I wanted to make the trip in one day (have you ever tried staying in a motel room with 8 kids?) but I knew I’d never make 14 hours without being able to stop and pump somewhere.  I just have to tell you my wildly embarrassing experience with this in Kanab, Utah.
July 16, 1995
We had left Arizona at 5:30 in the morning.  After six hours of driving I knew I needed to stop and find a place to pump. As I drove through Kanab I saw an LDS church and it occurred to me that I could probably find an empty room in there with an electric outlet to set up my pump.  I left the kids on the lawn outside the church to play-don’t worry I had several teenagers to ride herd on the little ones-and I hurried into the church with all my equipment for, what I hoped, was a quick stop.  Well, I had no problem finding an empty room but there was no one in the halls to ask if I could use it so I finally just went in and shut the door.  I noticed that there was a bolt lock on it so I locked that so that I wouldn’t get interrupted.  I could just see some brother walking in and finding me in all my glory! So getting a locking door was truly a bonus.  After a few minutes I heard everyone getting out of sacrament meeting and I expected to hear someone knocking on the door soon – but no one ever did.  I couldn’t believe it– I was able to finish up and pack everything and I thought I was going to get out of there without having to explain all this to anyone. I was feeling so lucky.

I proceeded to the door with my hands full of equipment and bottled milk.  I turned the knob with my emptiest hand and, to my horror, found that it wouldn’t open.  I put down my stuff and tried again—and again!  It wouldn’t budge!!  I just about died.  There I was locked in the church—8 kids doing who knows what outside and one of them a hungry baby who needed the milk I had just pumped.  I banged on the door and yelled for help – nothing.  It was deadly quiet out there.  I was beginning to panic as I ran to the window in the room to see if I could get the attention of someone outside – no one in sight.  I knew the car and the kids were on the other side of the building so that was no help.  There was a strong screen on the window that I couldn’t push out or even break.  I was getting really desperate.  As I scanned the room I spotted a phone and a phone book on one of the desks in the room.  Eureka!  I thought, “I can call someone.”  But who?  The police?  No, that was too embarrassing.  Suddenly I had an idea to call the Bishop’s office in the building.  Surely he’d still be there.  So I grabbed the phone and hurriedly flipped through the pages of the phone book.  I found the listing for the LDS church but my heart fell when there were 7 or 8 of them listed!  How to figure out which one to call?  I figured this one must be on Center street because it was on the highway that went right through town.  I ran to the window and looked out to see what kind of landmark I could describe to someone to make sure I had the right building.  There was a movie theater.  So I called the number for a church on Center St and, thank goodness, got an answer.  I asked the man on the other end of the line if this was the church across from the theater.  In a puzzled voice he answered, “Yes.” I rushed on, “Well I’m locked in one of your rooms and I can’t get out.”  Stunned silence.  He turned from puzzled to amused as I tried to explain my situation.  I’m sure it was all he could do not to laugh out loud as he assured me that he’d come “rescue” me.  

Sure enough, a few minutes later, two older men showed up and unlocked the door.  They were chuckling as they entered the room and introduced themselves to me.  Then one of them walked across the room and opened a second door which I had assumed was a closet and had not even tried to open, and to my complete dismay it opened into the hall!  And it had been unlocked the whole time!  Now I was doubly embarrassed!  I’m sure that’s a Sunday those brethren will never forget.  The day they rescued that cute little Arizona gal from the unlocked office.  Oh! My! Goodness!  I still shake my head and turn red when I think of it.  The “pumping incident” has gone down in infamy in the Taylor family history and is always good for a laugh. 

Monday, March 30, 2015

Troy



Troy was born on May 10, 1995.  He made his entrance after an emergency C-section.  Then came the announcement from the doctor that he had a cleft palate and a cleft lip.  I can only say that this was a terrible shock to us and my joy at finally having my sweet baby in my arms was punctuated by deep sadness.   I couldn't help feeling sorry for him.  I was so brokenhearted that he was going to have this disability to deal with.  The medical personnel assured us that these problems could be easily repaired but I couldn't shake the sorrow that had elbowed its way into my happiness. Dispersing this cloud of gloom was a gradual process accomplished through collection of information.  It was a process of trial and error just to learn to feed him.  Because his lip was open he couldn't get an air tight seal around the nipple to suck the milk out.  He had the same problem with breast feeding.  The doctors and nurses were very helpful but they didn't have a lot of information and some of it was even wrong.  For instance, the special bottle they gave me to feed Troy was especially made for infants with cleft lips.  It was helpful, but I found out later from the surgeon that they had not showed me the correct way to use it. So Troy struggled for another several days with trying to get enough food.  He lost weight until after we had our appointment with the surgeon and they helped us to learn how to feed him. The other thing I clearly remember the surgeon teaching us was to stop feeling sad for Troy.  He said that this problem was going to be such a small thing in his life that he would likely not even notice it.  I remember that his words brought me up short.  It was like a slap in the face to someone who is hysterical.  I have always appreciated his candor.  And I sat up and changed my attitude and went forward knowing that this was a small limitation and that we were blessed to live in the county that had the best medical care on earth and we happened to be living in a city that had one of the most preeminent surgeons for this type of birth defect. And we had been miraculously directed to him by our pediatrician.
From the journal I wrote for Troy - May 27, 1995:
"We soon found out that he had some special problems that he'll have to overcome.  He has a cleft lip and cleft palate.  As they brought him to me. I just hurt for him and felt so sad that he 'd have to deal with that.  But the other thing that was so noticeable about him was his eyes.  From the very beginning they were wide open as he calmly surveyed his surroundings.  Those big blue eyes are still my favorite feature on his face.  He is so often quietly alert-looking all around.  I love to talk to him and see how he responds with those eyes.  So many people say the same thing and your brothers and sister talk about your "big eyes" too. You've captured all our hearts, Troy.  The older kids can't stay away from you--from Matthew on down--they all stop to see Troy first thing when they get home from school.  I am so happy you have come to live with us, Troy.  You are so much fun to cuddle and hug and I love to watch your little face--awake or asleep--it is angelic."